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Sameasiteverwas comments on Untitled: 1

Sameasiteverwas — Wed, 12 Sep 2012 05:28:54 +0000

Love it. And dread that moment.

Sameasiteverwas comments on Untitled: 1

Sameasiteverwas — Wed, 12 Sep 2012 05:27:23 +0000

Love it. And dread that moment.

Sameasiteverwas comments on Untitled: 1

Sameasiteverwas — Wed, 12 Sep 2012 05:24:59 +0000

Love it. And dread that moment.

sameasiteverwas comments on Married Sex = No Divorce or Bad Sex?

sameasiteverwas — Wed, 12 Sep 2012 05:15:07 +0000

I agree with Cheri. Sex with a long-term partner has always been more exciting for me because I am allowed to "let my freak out" so to speak. And to comment on Sklyer's post, I have been through the "dry spells" with a partner, but then I realized they are self-imposed and habitual. A body at rest stays at rest. Same with sex. If you get out of the habit of having and enjoying sex, you become more and more comfortable with not expending the effort and energy to have it. WE ALL get home tired and listless. Once you break that BAD habit and open yourself you sex, alot, and everyday, you understand that a body in motion stays in motion. It becomes energizing, rather than a toll. And it's only as boring and routine as you make it. Don't get me wrong, sometimes time "routine maintenance" is just enough. We can't all be freaks all the time. Give it to me fast and hard, get me off, and get out. "Sex Drive" is a function of YOUR drive. Yes, sometimes you have to fake it and force it. But do you ever regret it afterwards?

Holly Golikeme comments on Snoopers and Snoop-ees

Holly Golikeme — Fri, 24 Aug 2012 20:45:13 +0000

I snooped once when I realized his passcode lock hadn't set in, and he was asleep. I limited myself to an open text thread. Turns out he resented me. We're divorcing now. The end.

Cheri comments on Married Sex = No Divorce or Bad Sex?

Cheri — Sat, 28 Jul 2012 00:19:22 +0000

The best sex I've ever had is with long relationships. I feel like you get to know each other and get comfortable with each other to experiment more.

Also, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER have a tv in your room. People who have tvs in their rooms have less sex than people who don't

Cheri comments on Keeping a Low Profile

Cheri — Sat, 28 Jul 2012 00:10:21 +0000

I don't like being too open either because when someone disappears it's hard to explain. Plus so many of my girlfriends are marriage minded right now and I hate the prying questions toward me and toward him...

Cheri comments on Snoopers and Snoop-ees

Cheri — Sat, 28 Jul 2012 00:02:38 +0000

After X and I broke up and his family was telling me about his new love, I looked her up on FB. I really wish I hadn't because it was like twisting the knife in my already shredded heart... *sigh*

Female Underground comments on WTF Wednesday: Part 3

Female Underground — Mon, 23 Jul 2012 01:32:25 +0000

Of course I did! I'm a glutton for punishment.

Skyler comments on Married Sex = No Divorce or Bad Sex?

Skyler — Sat, 21 Jul 2012 04:53:49 +0000

Ugh... I have been in long-term relationships (4 and 6 years respectively) where the chemistry has totally fizzled. I wasn't just disinterested in sex, I didn't want anything to do with them sexually AT ALL. For months at a time. I do think that there are factors which lead to a reduced sex drive such as hormonal issues, stress, being tired, depression, reproduction pressure, etc which can be treated/alleviated. However, looking back, I can see that my diminished sex drive was the first indication that the ship was going down. Those relationships where "lack of sex" was a complaint never recovered.

I know there is advice out there to women that if they are suffering from a low sex drive that they should just keep doing it, regardless of how they feel, and it will bounce back. I could never get myself to that point. That made me feel "obligated" which just reinforced my lack of interest and frankly, my resentment, even more.

I'll be honest... in my newer relationship, the sexual chemistry is through the roof. I found myself wondering though that if we chose to make it "official" or if it entered a more long-term status, if the same thing would happen where I would lose all interest.

I definitely think it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. I'll be interested to hear what others think.